The Weighting Room Podcast
The Weighting Room Podcast
AITA for being friendly with people at the gym?
Ever wondered what happens when espresso meets a tea-laxative combo? Join us for a laid-back chat where Chris and Lisa share their quirky drink preferences, navigate the chaos of rescheduled guests, and ponder some mind-boggling "Am I the Asshole?" stories. We talk about the mental health struggles plastered all over TikTok and the emotional rollercoaster of getting too wrapped up in strangers' lives online. Plus, Chris got a newfound love for reading, and she's diving into a true crime book, thanks to her shiny new Kindle.
Imagine hosting a barbecue and facing backlash for not sticking to the traditional greasy fare. We reminisce about the nostalgic charm of old bookstores and then dive into a heated family drama. A woman tailors her barbecue to her dietary needs, but her sister-in-law isn’t having it. We dissect the delicate dance of accommodating dietary restrictions while keeping guests happy and the tricky waters of family dynamics. This conversation is sure to make you rethink your next social gathering!
Bullying and body image take center stage as we discuss a brave 17-year-old who stands up to her friend's fat-shaming comments. We reflect on our own experiences with similar issues and why standing up for oneself is crucial, especially during those tumultuous teenage years. We wrap things up with some ethical dilemmas and a light-hearted chat about our candy cravings and editing quirks. Tune in for a mix of serious reflections, ethical debates, and a sprinkle of humor to keep things light!
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Disclaimer: We are not Medical professionals and all views and opinions are our own.
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Speaker 2:Hello Chris.
Speaker 1:Hello, Issa. Well, this is a different plan than we originally had. Nobody has to know. Yeah, well, I'm telling them. How would they know? Because I told them last week.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but they don't know. They don't know, we know, they know, we know. Oh, my God.
Speaker 1:We're rescheduling with our guests, so now we're gonna be doing some.
Speaker 2:Am I the assholes? Yay, what did you make to drink?
Speaker 1:um uh, coffee like espresso normally I do. Do you have an espresso machine?
Speaker 2:no, I have a keurig.
Speaker 1:I wish I had an espresso, though honestly, like I don't know about the difference, like, actually that's a lot.
Speaker 2:I've had keurig espresso is really awesome I'm gonna play this down so lisa doesn't feel so bad, but I can't because it's just so fucking good.
Speaker 1:Uh, so you have a choice of doing a long shot um yeah, like a luongo, they call it, it's 110 mil or then just an espresso shot, and so when I do the longer ones it just tastes like I'm having a morning coffee, but when I have it in the afternoon or evening, I like doing the espresso ones so it's a lot deeper and awesome. Yeah, so that's what I'm drinking. What are you drinking, lisa?
Speaker 2:I am. I am drinking tea that I put into the same cup as my laxatives that I had just before we started. That cup looks familiar. Um, I've had it quite a while. It says mother at the top and then it's got like the like it lists it. So it says mother, and then examples of a mother. So number one real life or not examples, but like a dictionary thing. So mother, how to pronounce it? Noun number one, uh, real life superhero. Number two, boo-boo fixer. Number three keeper of all snacks. Number four your biggest cheerleader I love it.
Speaker 2:So. And then we got one that says father, and then there's one for grandma, one for grandpa nice yeah, change color.
Speaker 1:No, okay, I think maybe I have one that is shaped the same and, like I don't know, I have to. Now I'm gonna go look through my stuff, uh. So I was not actively trying to find it, but I was like, oh, there's so many stories going on on TikTok right now. I should look through it and see if I have one I can explain to Lisa honestly, every single dramatic thing I came across on TikTok has to do with essay allegations and I'm just like, wow, this, and you know, at that point it's like I'm not sharing someone else's story on. That would be crazy. But, um, holy crap, there's just so many things like that happening.
Speaker 1:I feel like it's always happening, but it's just on overdrive right now yeah, it's insane and like a lot of people going through like really bad mental health episodes online and it's like in front of everyone and it and you kind of feel like they feel helpless and then like you also feel helpless because it's like you want to reach out to them and be like, but you're a complete, fucking stranger to them, you know, but anyway, it's just, it's insane right now. Online's a crazy place. Why are we here? I have no idea. Honestly, I was watching some videos recently talking about. They were like how online is just such an unreal place sometimes and it's like you're constantly walking on eggshells. I'm not talking about those, those like the conversations like everyone should be having.
Speaker 1:I'm talking about just like eggshells, about anything Like someone else is having a traumatic time with it, that you don't even know. You don't know this person. They're a stranger online and it's like they trauma dump on you and then are like why would you speak about something like this when it affects other people? And it's like this is you know what I mean? It's just people and it's like this is, you know what?
Speaker 1:I mean, it's just like. It's crazy, like stop putting this on everyone and then you meet people in real life that that are not online and they're like why are you even on this? Like it's just you really it's so separated from reality sometimes and you just need a slap in the face to get that reality check.
Speaker 2:I know the amount of times that you're like this is going on, this is going on. I'm like I have no idea what's going on on the internet anymore, because yeah, I talk on here and I I posted that I look away because yeah it just there was just a while there where it was like there was a while there where I went down that rabbit hole of like talking to the haters and all that stuff and it was just like you become absorbed in it whether it's for positivity or for negativity, and it's just like so.
Speaker 2:Now it's just easier for me to just yeah post and walk away or I kind of like.
Speaker 1:Chris yeah, I like I cap my time on like TikTok sometimes now it's just I'll go down those rabbit holes and then I realize I'm like I was so invested in someone else's life I'm not living my own.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You know, and that's a kind of a sad reality, but you know, I just try and do it in my downtime. However, I did get back into reading because Rams bought me that Kindle and everything, so it's really easy to read on and, um, I mean, I still like, love books, but I love the kindle for travel purposes.
Speaker 2:Um, so yeah, I'm reading something right now, or?
Speaker 1:I'm rereading a book that I only got halfway through, but it's really good. It's on the farm, uh, it's about robert robert picton. Uh, and I did read like more than half of it, like majority of it, but I never because I what happened? My kindle broke right when I was in the middle of watching it and I already purchased it or watching it, reading it and, uh, I didn't want to buy the book since I had already purchased it anyway. So I waited eight years to finish the book, so I started over.
Speaker 2:I have a problem where, after I'm done listening to it on audible, if it's a really good book, I will also buy it on kindle so that I can go back and forth between listening to it and reading it, when I'm not in a listening mood but in a reading mood or like if I'm because usually I'm listening like while I'm working or like in the car or something like that but then I'll read like as I'm sitting on the couch or whatever, and then if I love it, like if I'm a big fan of it, I'll buy the books for me to put on my shelf.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I do want to read the book recommendation Sarah gave. That you got really into because the amount that you talk about it. I'm like all right, you know what? I might even pause Emma on the farm again that just to see what you guys are getting into. But I borrowed this book from a friend of mine and I really have to read it. I have not even started and listen to the podcast is no confession thank god, maybe he does and he just doesn't tell me, but he's one of those people that don't.
Speaker 1:I shouldn't put that in front of my phone he's one of those people that don't like it if you split the don't crack the spine, don't crack the spine, uh, and the thing is like I can't help it. Sometimes it'll just happen and I don't normally care about most of my books unless it was like some original whatever. But I'm never, never, going to afford that. So I haven't opened it because I I don't know how to not crack it. Like how do you read on the inside? To hold it like this.
Speaker 2:I'm, uh, I'm okay with cracking the spine yeah, but.
Speaker 2:Brandon's not and, like, I have, um, the Lunar Chronicles absolutely like. By far my favorite series on the entire planet is the Lunar Chronicles. I've listened to it a hundred times and, um, I have never read the books, I've only listened to it. But Brandon has read the books and he won't crack the spine. But you can see which books I have actually read, because I do crack the spine and I guarantee anybody who reads books right now I'm sure there's like half the people who are just like I can't believe she cracks the spine.
Speaker 1:I just don't understand, like also I I I love buying used books and I love it. Though If it's like that, it means that it's been well read, like well loved, and, like I, I get that other people see it the other way is like saying, like saying that it's like well loved if it's not, if this one's not cracked. I don't see it that way. Um sorry, what'd you say?
Speaker 2:yeah, did I take you to the used bookstore the last time you were here no, and the three times that I've been there, we actually never explored the the like.
Speaker 1:I know that there's not much to it, but I'm like we need to do that next time first of all, we definitely will not be going to our downtown area.
Speaker 2:Second of all, um, I will take you to this used bookstore, though, because it is just like, reminds me of my childhood, love it, and um, yeah, I'll take you there with me when you're here next, I always relate it back to Harry Potter.
Speaker 1:even though my love for Harry Potter has died quite a bit, there's still a part of my heart that loves it. And also it was like the first thing that Rams and I actually was for a long time. The only common thing Rams and I had, uh, which is crazy to say, it's just like whatever it's so disappointing and you know what? Oh, my god, I heard that the uh, I can't remember her name. I'm so sorry for that. Wow, yeah um.
Speaker 1:So let's look forward to that I hope that jk rowling ends up in that courthouse, but probably not wow it's just, it's so.
Speaker 2:It's like you know when, um, it's like you're growing up. I feel like you and I recently had this conversation on the phone in a different context. But you know, when you're growing up and it's like you're growing up. I feel like you and I recently had this conversation on the phone in a different context. But you know, when you're growing up and it's just like somebody in your family isn't the best person, but when you're a kid, nobody tells you about that family member. And then, once you become an adult, you're like Ooh, that person's not a good person. Like you figured it out on your own. Yeah, that's this.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, it's sad because I've had a lot of those realizations, unfortunately, because I also stepped away from my family for over a decade and ever since I came back, like I went up to my cousin I can't tell you who or what, what I said, but I went up to them like is this person? Blah, blah, blah. And they're like oh yeah, honey, what? Like?
Speaker 1:yeah, and I'm like oh, for fuck's sakes, like I had no idea.
Speaker 1:You know what I mean and it's it's just shocking to like know that, like there's these awful people in your family that you grew up, just like it's crazy, yeah, um, yeah.
Speaker 1:But what I was saying about the Harry Potter thing was I love those bookstores that look like they would belong in that movie but they actually more look just like bookstores and antique stores. You see, in England, and I remember the last time I was there, when I was 16, my father took me to I think it was called Louth and we went to this antique store and it was so it was wooden and creaky and dusty and it was so cool. And I remember going up to the second floor and I found this book that looked like a bible and it was two pounds and it was the complete works of William Shakespeare, but it was even written on that bible type paper. It was so cool and I brought it back with me and I held on to it for so long and someone stole it from me along my travels. So many things of mine went missing throughout my life and I now don't have.
Speaker 1:Uh, anyway, I just love old bookstores like that that even have, like you even made your library like that in the sims, with, like the, the ladders to the bookshelves, like that whole oh yeah, I love that.
Speaker 2:You're gonna love that. You're gonna love it. This place is literally floor to ceiling. Books, books upon like piles and piles and piles and piles and piles of books. Like you, you're gonna love this place.
Speaker 1:I really love that bookstore in Stratford that you and I walked into. That was really cute. It didn't have a lot of books in it, what in the back end, but it had that smell and like the creaky floors. Yeah, you know, out of out of most movies that actually have a bookstore, it has to be that Meg Ryan one and Tom Hanks You've Got Mail how she runs. I love You've.
Speaker 2:Got Mail.
Speaker 1:But that bookstore that she runs and like when it showed her as a little girl with her mom twirling her around. I'm like, oh, what a great childhood. You must have just lived in the land of make-believe your whole life. Like, yeah, anyway, what are we even talking this?
Speaker 2:was really wholesome, but now we're gonna turn it around and talk about assholes. I love this. Oh man, you want to go first, sure?
Speaker 1:okay, uh, I just pulled up random ones, so this one was deleted and the moderators put it back. Am I the asshole for being fat phobic towards my sister-in-law? So I, 27 female, recently hosted a family barbecue at my house. It was a big event with about 20 people, including my husband, who's a 30 male family, my husband's family. Among the guests was my sister-in-law, emily, 35 female, who is significantly overweight. I only mentioned this because it is relevant to the story.
Speaker 1:Emily has always struggled with her weight and while I have no issue with her size, it does come with certain health concerns that she often talks about herself. She's on medication for high blood pressure and has diabetes, which she frequently brings up in conversation. She hosts barbecues most of the time and makes food that I can't eat because of my dietary requirements. I had a benign tumor in my gallbladder and had it removed, making my ability to digest fat, the macronutrient, more difficult. Since I make my dietary needs known and love cooking nutritious meals, I decided to make the barbecue menu things I thought people would enjoy but I could still eat with my limitations. I prepared grilled chicken breasts, thighs and drums, vegetable skewers, a big salad with optional dressings, campfire baked potatoes and some lean beef burgers. I also made a berry and tropical fruit salad for dessert and whipped cream with maple syrup to go with it.
Speaker 2:That all sounds so good.
Speaker 1:Right when Emily arrived and saw the spread, she seemed disappointed and asked what the real food was. What I politely explained? That I wanted everyone to be able to enjoy this barbecue and I wanted to serve foods I could enjoy too because of my dietary restrictions. And she's hosting right?
Speaker 2:Just to clarify. Yeah, Okay.
Speaker 1:She made a few comments about how she was looking forward to indulging and how boring the food looked. Later in the afternoon, emily began complaining loudly about how she was still hungry and missed having mac and cheese, ribs and other foods that she liked to serve. She said it wasn't a real barbecue without those items. My husband and a few others tried to calm her down why do you have to calm her down? But she continued to gripe about it for the rest of the event.
Speaker 1:The next day I called Emily to check on her and offered to cook together sometime, thinking we might be able to indulge in a shared hobby and maybe host the next event together so we could both have foods we enjoy on the table. She then accused me of being fat phobic and said I had deliberately excluded her favorite foods to shame her for her size. I had deliberately excluded her favorite foods to shame her for her size. She told my husband that I had humiliated her and now my husband is upset with me for attacking his sister. I honestly didn't mean to hurt Emily's feelings, but I wanted to provide a meal I could eat. As well as what, as well as when my guests could enjoy. Am I the asshole for not serving food I can't eat to make my sister-in-law happy not the asshole.
Speaker 1:That is like wow at first I was thinking there wasn't even going to be meat. I was like, okay, maybe it's all salads and stuff. I'm like what's that kind of a barbecue?
Speaker 1:but it wasn't even just the chicken she's still like they still had beef burgers. They're just lean, yeah, and honestly, ribs like just like the only thing that they mentioned was like ribs as another meat. It's like if rams went to a barbecue, he wouldn't be able to eat ribs, so it wouldn't be much of a barbecue to him. Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2:and it's not like you're. You're not hosting yeah you could have hosted something and served ribs and mac and cheese if that's what you want to host like, or you could have brought.
Speaker 1:It been like hey, can I bring something? Yeah no, my friend invited me to her birthday uh, in september and I said, can I bring anything? Because it's a barbecue, she's like you can bring a side if you want.
Speaker 2:I'm like sweet yeah you know, not the asshole because it's just like I feel like there's you're looking for something there, like you're trying to.
Speaker 1:You're trying to start some shit there with your family yeah, um, I was trying to read some of the comments, but they're all kind of weird did everybody agree, though they say not the asshole you don't know, because it got deleted and it was reposted but it kind of seems like people are thinking the, not the op. The op is not the asshole right, right, right, right.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm in the asshole for being friendly with people at the gym. I got a gym one and then I got another one that doesn't have to do with being fat, but it's a we'll talk later, okay, so I'm on the asshole for being friendly with people at the gym. I, 30 male, am happily married to my wife, 30 female. We have been together for seven years and have been married for two years. A few months ago, I joined a new local gym to get back into shape. I'm not overweight, but had a lot of anxiety and low self-esteem issues, and my therapist suggested that exercising might help. I go there in the morning and there are the same 10 to 15 people there at that time. It's mostly a mix of older people and a few people who are very muscular and dedicated. I am friendly with everyone.
Speaker 2:I met a girl, female, late 20s. She was very muscular and is always at the gym when I go. One day when I was working out, she approached me and told me that my form was wrong and that I might hurt myself. She showed me how to do the exercise correctly. I genuinely thought that she was a trainer at the gym, hence whenever I had a question. I would always go to her and ask her about stuff. Sometimes she would advise me on how to order my exercises and we would do the same circuit in training together. We only started chatting after the workout sessions, but we only talked about workouts, diets etc. We never exchanged any phone numbers or socials. However, we have met regularly in the gym 45 days a week for the last two months or so.
Speaker 2:During the Christmas week my wife decided to join me in the morning. She generally goes to the gym in the evening very infrequently, but since she had the days off, we both went in the morning. Female was working out as usual and was staring at us. After our workout was done, I took my wife over to meet F female and told her that she works here and helps answer my questions. My wife thanked her for helping me out and introduced herself. Puzzled look and and told my wife I don't work here, but me and f have been working out together regularly for the past two months and would and I was happy to glad and I was happy to help. We all laughed about the confusion and my wife made a point to tell her how clueless I am in social situations.
Speaker 2:When I went back to the gym last week, f was acting weird and trying to avoid me. I asked her what was going on and she said that I was an asshole and asked why I was leading her on for the last two months. She told me that I was a creep and not to talk to her again. I have never talked to her about anything other than workouts and asking for advice. I never flirted with her or gave her any indication that I was interested. Asking for advice, I never flirted with her or gave her any indication that I was interested. I, in fact, always wore my wedding ring to the gym. So I'm really confused. Did I do anything wrong here? Why would she think I was leading her on if I'd never said anything about it or even flirted with her? What are the rules for talking to people at the gym without it being considered creepy?
Speaker 1:I think it's creepy if someone's just like hey, I'm married, by the way, I'm most like. She's like do you want to go for coffee? Do you want to meet up sometime? It's weird to just be like oh, and, by the way, I'm married, right?
Speaker 2:I mean, I didn't fucking ask, but at the same time like, okay, so 100? I think he's not the asshole, right. But just to the point that you're saying that, it's weird to just say, hey, I'm married, you could just slip in that like my wife.
Speaker 2:You know what I mean like when it's like you're in a training thing and you could be like, oh yeah, my wife should look at something like that, or oh, I'm gonna have to show my wife this move later, or something like that. You know what I mean. Like just a subtle drop, but at the same time, like I don't know, your life is your life. You get to share whatever you want about it. If you're not sharing anything about your life and you're just talking about gym stuff, but I don't know about other people like my gym session usually runs for about an hour to an hour and a half, depending on what I'm doing and if I'm going to the recovery room after and blah, blah, blah, blah.
Speaker 2:If I'm with somebody like actually working the same circuit for an hour and you're like for two months, five days a week, and all you're talking about is workout and gym stuff. Like and you never once mentioned your wife Like you know what I mean. Like it just that seems sus to me. Yeah, like how that's a lot, that's a lot of talking. Yeah, that's a hundred hours of talking.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean Rams comes up in conversations probably like almost immediately.
Speaker 2:Is that a hundred hours? Is that right? Five, five, 10, 15, 20, sorry, 40 hours of talking.
Speaker 1:Like you're asking me a math question I figured it out where's my calculator?
Speaker 2:I don't know. I just think if you're doing the same circuit, you're like yeah, yeah, I say not the asshole, but you probably could have said something at some point, because at the end of the day, whether he said he was married or not, he never gave any indication that he was interested. Yeah, and like to the point. Also, like the amount of times people are like oh, by the way, I have a boyfriend, or oh, by the way, like I'm married, and then people get offended that they're just like oh, what we couldn't just be friends, like you know what I mean like there's no winning in that scenario also, wouldn't it have been obvious to her when she entered, when he introduced her to his wife and said that she works here, that everything's been a complete misunderstanding?
Speaker 1:yeah, like I wouldn't have I the next day seeing him, I would have acted. Like the next day seeing him I would have acted like nothing, unless she thought something was there.
Speaker 2:And then he's like oh, this is my trainer, you know what I mean, hoping she's going to go along with it. She thinks it's some story.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I could see it all. Yeah, all right. So the next story is am I the asshole for telling my skinny friend that she's obese wild okay?
Speaker 2:I don't know how you're gonna like. Sometimes you hear the titles and you're just like oh. And then you hear the story and you're like, oh no, you're not an asshole, but this one it's like. I don't know how you're gonna twist this one.
Speaker 1:Honestly, yeah, and also I guess, like the ages will realize like where this is coming from in a sec, hi, me and my friend are both 17, female, by the way. Oh my god, don't do the voice stop. I'm obese, nearly morbidly obese, according to the internet. I don't really care about that stuff because I think self-love is more important and I'm happy with my weight, but it's kind of an important part. My friend Maria is average, if not quite, skinny. She made fun of my weight before but she always says it's just a joke. Oh, I hate that. She constantly like I think it's different if, like you and me, like joked Cause, like yeah, I still wouldn't joke and be like you're fat. You know what I mean.
Speaker 2:Let's not even get down that rabbit hole.
Speaker 1:It's different when it's coming from someone that's in the same boat as you. I wouldn't be as offended if it was coming from you as compared to, I don't know, my mom.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I feel like we've said this before, there's a difference between people who are, like I feel, fat, and people who are fat you know what I mean.
Speaker 1:I've become very good with saying I'm having a bad body day today because it just it's a lot easier. Yeah, okay, she constantly asks everyone in her friend group if she's fat. I understand being insecure, but it's genuinely really excessive and it's weekly. While we're eating lunch at this point, she never eats her lunch and always throws it away, then points to mine and tells me that I'm eating so much and that even half of that would fill her up. She said this every day for the past three to four months. Man bitch, I wouldn't have let you say it a second time. Meet me in the smoke pit bitch.
Speaker 2:Did all high schools have a smoke pit? They had to.
Speaker 1:Even my Catholic school kind of did, but it was at the corner store. Oh yeah, I don't think she's on a diet or anything either. She just makes weird comments like that a lot. She's so insecure she's pointing out the fat person so that eyes are on that person.
Speaker 2:I've lived there, been there.
Speaker 1:Today she asked to try my jacket on because she was cold. This is. I know where this is going and I experienced this so much in high school. If this is where it's going, I thought she was actually cold. But after she said, oh my god, this is so huge on me, does this actually fit you? Obviously I'm paraphrasing. I don't remember exactly, but my other friends started to laugh. I told her that she does look fat and she looks fatter than me, and that my jacket fits her really well. She got quiet and changed the subject. But tonight she messaged me and asked me why I would say that when I know she's insecure. I told her that I'm tired of her. Like what if I'm insecure?
Speaker 2:yeah, who gives a shit about how you're making the other people feel I have this issue? Go, you're 17. You're 17 stop talking.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I know, right, you have to remember that. I told her that I'm 17, is old enough, I'm. I told her that I'm tired of her. She's gonna learn today okay she got quiet and changed the subject.
Speaker 1:But tonight she messaged me and asked me why I would say that when I know she's insecure. I told her that I'm tired of her fishing for compliments and being rude to me because of my weight. She said that I'm just jealous of her and she left me on scene. Sorry. For a minute I didn't understand what that meant and then I was like oh yeah, okay, technology.
Speaker 1:Oh my god, you're such a millennial I am well, I actually would have immediately understood it if it said left her on red. I probably right, yeah, yeah I asked my parents for advice, but they agree with her and think I was very rude, but I don't know how else I would have made it stop.
Speaker 2:Okay, so as a person, in this perspective of a mom, I don't have a teenager like mine. I have a toddler who sasses me. Oh, pause that for a second. So this at the start of the episode I talked about how I had laxatives beforehand and that's because I'm constipated and we're just getting, we're just getting personal, and I came out of the bathroom and unable to go, so I just went. I am constipated and Harper just goes, constipated and our Brandon just lost it, laughing because she's like trying to sing, constipated. Now I'm like, hey, my little backup singer anyways, um, so as so, I only have a two-year-old. I don't have a, I don't have a teenager. But actually, let's tell, let's tell the story as a different, slightly perspective.
Speaker 2:I did get bullied a lot in middle, in middle middle school, for my weight, for how I looked like, whatever, anything all of it. And I was very open about the bullying, like I told my teachers, told the principal, told my parents, and it wasn't until I was older that I knew that, how much my parents were actually trying to do. And I remember, when I was a kid, my parents saying they were basically done with it. You know what I mean, cause I've just, I've done what they teach you to do. You tell an adult, you walk away. I did that.
Speaker 2:My entire seventh grade class still bullied me. Like it's just, it is what it was. You know what I mean. And even though I went to the adults and I went to the parents and I went to and walked away, I did the things that you are told to do and it's still nothing was changing. So I remember my parents sitting me down one night and saying we know that, you know that what we're about to tell you is wrong, but if you're done with it and you need to punch someone in the nose if they keep saying it and they're not listening and like we've said to stop, and you've done everything that you can throw a punch, and so it's like your dad's listening and that's going.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, he did he didn't.
Speaker 2:It was like, just do it Right.
Speaker 2:I never did because you know, older is worrying about the secrets coming out but it wasn't until I was older that I realized, like after other conversations that I've had with my parents, that they did have conversations with the teachers and they did try to get it to stop and nothing did it. So they were like punch them. No one, no one's solving anything. You still feel like shit, hit them. Like you know what I mean. And I think everybody's breaking point was at that time where, like I was in the girl's change room and the one girl just like yelled out, said like Lisa, do you consider your boobs to be actual boobs or just fat? And it was like in front of the entire, like your entire class, right, all the girls, and I don't even I don't think I even said anything or whatever at that point, I just remember walking away. So and I think that was kind of the breaking point that everybody was like just hit him, like we're done, nobody's doing anything.
Speaker 2:So in this story, when she's going to her parents and she's like this is what I did, I could not say to my kid no, you did something wrong here. Like you know what I mean. Like if someone's been bullying you in that sense, if it doesn't matter if they've been your friend or not. Like I think it would have been a. It depends on the kid too. Like if they've been your friend or not. Like I think it would have been a. It depends on the kid too. Like if they've never done something like this before and now they're just at their breaking point. It's like we know you. You already know what you said is wrong. You already know what you said is going to hurt somebody. You know that before you even said the words. But I also understand that you just stood up for yourself for what just happened there. You know what I mean. Like it's I wouldn't get that, I wouldn't get them and shit for that. Yeah, assuming this is a kid that doesn't usually do shit like that yeah, it was voted as an.
Speaker 1:Everyone sucks. I'm not surprised, yeah, um. Yeah, I mean like, is violence right? No, but it just kind of. It gets to a point people can only take so much, uh. So yeah, that was that's. That's what we got happening for this episode. We're gonna do another am I the asshole? Right after this, which will probably get straight to the point this time, rather than talking about whatever we talked about in the beginning, that I decided to leave in because we don't know yet what's staying in and what's not.
Speaker 1:Yeah, whatever, I'm honest, you guys don't hear a lot of stuff. Well, actually, that's not true, you guys don't you guys hear a lot? You don't hear about 15 of the stuff. I was gonna say 10, well, whatever, yeah, okay, do we want to do a listen? But I've been eating candy this entire episode you want to do a listen bitch?
Speaker 2:I didn't take out the cards. No, um, no, we'll do that.
Speaker 1:I don't think we need the vibes. I think this was okay, vibes I seriously can't stop eating candy. I'm gonna crash so hard, but but. But. This was the waiting room, bye yay.