The Weighting Room Podcast
The Weighting Room Podcast
AITA because I ate more than "my share" of a 6 foot party sub last night?
What happens when food becomes both a source of comfort and a challenge? Picture this: a delightful exploration of healthy eating habits with homemade keto wraps and protein-packed rice crispy squares, balanced with a candid discussion on mental health, including a personal diagnosis of binge eating disorder. We find solace in humor and cleaning, drawing inspiration from beloved TV characters while navigating these personal hurdles. As the episode unfolds, we share our favorite homemade recipes and the joys of baking, from banana bread to bagels, celebrating the comfort they bring amidst life's ups and downs.
Family dynamics can be as complex and layered as a six-foot party sub, and our conversation takes a serious turn as we address the emotional turmoil of a woman caught in the crossfire of blended family conflicts. Her story unfolds with heart-wrenching decisions, from confronting her stepchildren's behavior to seeking refuge in a hotel after feeling unsupported by her husband. We explore the tangled web of relationships involving stepchildren, an ex-wife, and the quest for mutual respect and understanding. The challenges of blended families are real, and we discuss whether counseling could offer a path to healing and resolution.
Shifting gears, we bring some levity to the table with tales of social gatherings and food etiquette. Picture this: a UFC event, a six-foot sandwich, and the awkward aftermath of a sharing mishap. We reflect on the nuances of party food etiquette and how these moments can highlight deeper issues, like binge eating. With a dash of humor, we dive into the importance of empathy and understanding in these social settings. As we wrap up, we give a shoutout to our friend Ken's successful business venture, Bite-Sized, and share our excitement for the upcoming holiday season, promising more episodes filled with heart, humor, and perhaps a few more party subs.
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hello lisa, hello chris. I was just telling chris that the nurse told me to. Well, she didn't tell me. I initiated the conversation. I was like I always found in my past, whenever I was focusing on like those fad diets in quotations, any of them that aimed as lower fat always seemed to work better for me and she was like, okay, well, let's try that for the next couple weeks and aim for low fat. I'm like, okay, I can do that and I am currently eating a chili cheese burrito, but it is a chili cheese burrito that I made at home myself with, like, shredded cheese, and it's my own leftover chili from last night and it's those keto wraps.
Speaker 1:And I made two. I'm only going to eat one because my eyes were bigger than my stomach.
Speaker 2:Do you know, what I love doing when I'm just so hungry, like when I've come home from work and I did not pack myself enough is wrapping up one of those keto wraps with some of those pre-made like chicken strips.
Speaker 2:Like the, you know those hundred gram ones that you get. Yeah, like that. And then put a little bit of butter chicken sauce on top of it, because I buy the jar of butter chicken sauce and I don't use the whole jar in one go. Uh, it is so good. And then, if you want to go an extra step, put some melted cheese on there and then wrap it up in the microwave for 20 seconds that sounds like it would slap.
Speaker 1:I like to take those wraps and put peanut butter and nutella. That's what I go to for that scenario. But actually my go-to this week that I've been having, like in the afternoon if I just need a like quick pick me up or um, uh, in the mornings before I go to the gym is um, I've made rice crispy squares and added protein powder. Oh my gosh, it is so good. Like I made a whole slab, I guess you could call it. It made 24 bars. It was 100 calories per bar and six grams of protein in comparison to like an uncrustable is also six grams of protein, but it's 250. An Uncrustable is also six grams of protein, but it's 250 calories. So it's enough to just like put something in my stomach before I go to the gym.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but, yeah, that's good, I really like them.
Speaker 2:Gosh, I forgot what I was going to say. I have had almost no sleep. I've been up since this morning making banana bread and bagels and then my brother just came by and I gave him a bunch of the bagels. I even like cut them one in half with like a side of cream cheese so they could have it for his break. He was picking them up on his way to work. So I'm like you know, just so you can have that, and it just makes me feel kind of, it makes me feel really good like baking, and I told him like I'm going to try and implement this as like a Sunday thing.
Speaker 1:Come get your bagels. Send me bagels. I want bagels. They sound so good.
Speaker 2:The banana bread I made is actually my favorite and I didn't make it with overripe bananas, I made it with just bananas that we've had for three days, so they're not even like dark on the outside yet and a little bit less sugar and they're just not so overwhelming banana-y. And because they're not super sugary yet and I added less sugar, it's just not an insane cake sugar. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's not savory, but it's not as muffin-y.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's really super yummy. More bread, less muffin, muffin.
Speaker 1:yeah, I'm just gonna bake while I'm there, all right fine, what I knew, I'm all right, I'm like just let it happen um, before getting into it, we're gonna do an.
Speaker 2:am I the asshole today? But I didn't even tell Lisa I was gonna say this, but I just wanted everyone to know out there that, like, not that we have not been struggling with putting episodes out, but it might happen a little bit more for the rest of the year. And also, I don't know how much I'm just really going to be talking about stuff right now. I'm going through a lot of crap right now and I'm not going to go into it. I'm not inviting people into this, but I went through a mental evaluation and I was diagnosed with two different things, one of them I will be open about, which was binge eating disorder. I mean, I'm not shocked, but it was just like getting the official diagnosis now rather than just my doctor being like you have binge eating disorder, so that, um. Then there's something else. That's just more and, uh, I'm not handling it very well at all and I'm sure that lisa could vouch for that, given the voice I kept them, just so that I know because I'm like, wow, I'm so devastated I was.
Speaker 1:I was gonna say I think you're handling things in the best, the ability that you know how.
Speaker 2:So which is I'm gonna be optimistic about it um, I even sent Lisa a voice note yesterday being like I think I now understand the origins of Monica Geller because, because, like with whatever, like binge eating and stuff, and how she started cleaning I have been cleaning non-stop today. I did it the other day and it's just like it's. It's just funny doing it. It makes me laugh. It's the one thing that's really been making me laugh because, uh, I understand monica more. I always thought I was phoebe, but I think it's.
Speaker 1:I think it's safe to tell everybody, though, that you're not a sociopath like my life oh yeah danger by continuing the podcast yeah, we're good.
Speaker 2:I'm not in danger. No one's in danger, it's just she still feels empathetic.
Speaker 2:It's fine, we're safe here just a lot for me to handle and I don't want anyone to be worried about me. It's not anything worrying, it's not something that's not going to be helped, and I have a team of mental health specialists and support on my side. So, yeah, that's that and that's all I'm going to go into with it. I probably will talk more about the binge eating side of it, because I'm waiting for a doctor's appointment right now to see a psychologist, psychologist, psychiatrist, psychiatrist. I always get it wrong.
Speaker 1:Everybody does.
Speaker 2:To get medicated and one of the recommendations was possibly and I know a lot of people have heard about that, talked about it it would also help with my focus. That's really funny. I'll lose it on that one. Just to let people know I was not diagnosed with ADHD, because that does go for ADHD, but it's. I hit some markers for that, most definitely, and they said that and it's just a whole big thing. Anyway, I'm not going to keep talking, or I'm going to eventually talk about what it is, and I don't want to, so let's talk about assholes that sounds like a very different podcast.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it really does.
Speaker 2:Yeah yeah, so I found this one a couple weeks ago when I thought we were going to record, and it's long and it has a long update. All right, we're going to go right into it. I have to read this one off my phone, because the one that came up on my computer was just the update. All right, so am I the asshole for not doing anything for my stepchildren anymore after being called names and filing for a divorce from my husband after he didn't back me up?
Speaker 1:You're going to have to read that title again because I got the no, because my brain couldn't process all of it at once am I the asshole for not doing anything for my stepchildren anymore after being called names and filing for divorce from my husband? After he didn't back me up, I'm gonna say no right after that I know that's why I was like, okay, wait, who's saying what we're here? But so far I'm gonna say no yeah, this story there's also like there's a lot of questions like it's like how long how long did you know them for?
Speaker 1:like were they your stepchildren from when they were born and you've been in their life for like 30 years and now you're saying this. Or were you married for like two years and now you're saying this. Or were you married for like two years and now you're like fuck the whole family. Like there's two different scenarios, so I can't even.
Speaker 2:I know I stayed in the beginning.
Speaker 2:This is a very long story, so let's get to the point sorry, jesus, I'm kidding remember the sociopath thing okay, I, 30 female, have been married to my 34 male husband for six years and he has twins, a boy and a girl, and they are now 16. So they've been married for six years. So they got married when the kids were 10. When we started dating, slash got married, we went to a family therapy and I made it clear that I was not trying to be their mother or replace their mother. Their mother hasn't been in their life since they were about eight. Things have been, which, honestly, is only been two years before you got married.
Speaker 1:Anyway, sorry, I'm just really putting that out there. She said that they have been in their life since she was eight Like their mother hasn't been there since they were eight.
Speaker 2:Oh, okay things have been great with us for the past six years. They even started calling me mom when they were around 12 13. Recently, their bio mom came back into their lives and they were really excited. Things were great for about six months and then they started to call me by my real name. That hurt, but what they chose to do, I never questioned it. Recently they've been getting very disrespectful. They don't follow the curfew rules. They're not cleaning up after themselves. They're talking back to me telling me I'm not their real mom and that I'm the reason that she left, which is not true. I didn't meet him until almost a year after she left. Uh, that now that she's back, they don't need me anymore. Three weeks ago there was a big blow up. My stepson called me a bit oh my thing, just messed up, sorry oh no, what a cliffhanger uh, my son called me.
Speaker 2:Uh, my stepson called me a bitch. She puts step in brackets, by the way, like she wants to call them her son and daughter, but she's putting step. Um. I took his phone from him and told him to go to his room until his dad came back, but instead he ran out and went to his mom's. She came over and it was a big argument. She tried to hit me and I pushed her out of my house. My stepdaughter told me if I ever put hands on her mom again, then she'll kick my ass. They both went to their mom's place. After that I haven't been very active. Usually I take them to sports and activities. I don't wake them up for school, so they've been late a few times. I tell them to have their mom wake them up and take them. Sorry, I feel like I'm reading this very weird.
Speaker 2:Just there's a lot of periods yeah, I get it we were supposed to go to disney world for their spring break this week, but I canceled everything. I told them and my husband. I guess they thought I told them and my husband and I guess they thought I was bluffing. I'm sorry it's because I took screenshots of these. I have to go to each one, that's okay. We were supposed to leave thursday night and when I didn't start the usual vacation roundup, they were shocked. They started saying I was jealous that their mom came back in their lives and that I'm a horrible person. I'm selfish.
Speaker 2:There was some name calling and my husband was silent. I asked him if he was going to step in and he said I was wrong for canceling. I left and went to stay in a hotel. He has been blowing my phone up, asking me to come back and yesterday he told me that their mother disappeared again and they've been calling me, crying and apologizing. I don't want to do this anymore. I don't feel like I'm part of their family and they can't just cry and come back now that she's disappeared.
Speaker 2:I I told my husband that I want a divorce and I'll be back over this week to get my things, but we have nothing to talk about. Yes, I know their mother was manipulating them. I never said otherwise. Yes, they were 16. That doesn't give them the right to treat me this way. Being 16 doesn't mean you get to be disrespectful and threaten me. I have always been in their corner. I know their feelings matter in this, but I am also a person with feelings.
Speaker 2:I am not only considering or moving forward with this divorce based on how the children acted. It is also that my husband did not back me up in this. If I can't count on him to help me navigate through this tough situation that we are all going through, then why should I stay? That does not mean that I should be treated the way I was being treated. That is not normal 16-year-old behavior. To threaten me, call me vile names.
Speaker 2:I just need time for myself and I don't want an apology just because their bio mother ran out on them again. I want an apology because they really mean it and I don't believe anyone can be truly sorry two days after their mother vanished again. I would never just abandon them, but I do need time for myself because feelings were disregarded. Yes, I am an adult, but I still have feelings that were hurt and need time for myself because feelings were disregarded. Yes, I am an adult, but I still have feelings that were hurt and need time for myself. I never asked or expected them to be perfect. I never expected them to be the most mature people, but I am allowed to be hurt and take time for myself during all of this. They have feelings and so do I. I love them very much. They are my children, but this is a very complicated situation.
Speaker 2:This is not because they called me a bitch. I've been called worse. I'm a woman. This is ultimately about my husband not backing me up during this situation. And, yes, I am hurt. They called me that. I'm allowed to be hurt. She says this a lot. It hurts even worse coming from two people who I love dearly and would never hurt or want any harm to come to them. That is the end of this part. Something equally as long is updated.
Speaker 1:Do you want my opinion before the update? Do you want to give your opinion before the update? Yeah, because I feel like it might change after the update. Okay, I'm going to see. And here's the thing, like it might change after the update. Okay, I'm gonna see.
Speaker 1:And here's the thing at first, as you were reading everything and you're and they're saying, like what the kids did and all this stuff, and then the mom went to leave and blah, blah, blah. So like before the last, like paragraph, I want to say I was in my head saying, not the asshole, because like this isn't what you signed up for when you married them. Blah, blah, blah. All that stuff, right, and I think that's probably where majority of the people are at. But the amount of times, like the one thing that changed my opinion on it is the part where she said they are my children and like near the end, where she's like my feelings were her blah, blah, blah. And then she's saying like I consider them my children and all I can think is, like, as someone who has a kid, you do not consider them your children if you're going to leave because of that?
Speaker 2:no, because people that have their own kids leave too, and she's not just leaving because of that. I think that what she's basing it off. If she's really mad, her husband didn't stick up for her yeah, I feel like it's.
Speaker 1:It's a sticky situation, because she was in in this and she said she never wanted to replace their mom. And I get that, but at some point you did become their mom. You know what I mean and I think that's where it's it. The kids are definitely taking like, taking advantage of her in the sense of like, well, she's my mom, but she's also my mom and if I treat her like shit, it's, it's okay, because she's always going to be my mom.
Speaker 2:Like you know what I mean, like you also know it doesn't make sense if the kids have a good relationship with their dad, if the mom no. If the stepmom noticed these things, saying like they started being disrespectful, they started not following their curfew, they started not calling me mom anymore. Were you talking to your husband about this and bringing up these concerns? Because you said you knew that she was probably being manipulated? The kids were probably being manipulated by the mother. Were you telling the father?
Speaker 1:Yeah, and was there a conversation with the mother at all?
Speaker 2:because even though she keeps saying like oh, they're 16, they should still know better. I remember what I was like at 16 and not all 16 year olds are really that smart and, to be quite honest, like I was even manipulated so much as an adult, so it's just like yeah I don't know, I feel like it's hard.
Speaker 1:I feel like. I feel like you're not. I feel like you're not. The mom, the birth mom here is definitely the asshole in the entire situation.
Speaker 1:There's some shit going on if she walks into somebody else's house and attacks the stepmother and is able to manipulate the kids this way and then leaves again like the. The birth mom here is the major issue in all of this, for sure, and I feel like, honestly, the way this person is like reacting to it, I'm gonna say not the asshole, but I feel like both, both ways are the right way you know what I mean.
Speaker 1:If you decide to leave, it's not your birth family, it's not like you didn't sign up for this bullshit, blah, blah, blah. But at the same time, if you really I don't know, maybe that's like my brain on that side, but it's like if you want to be their mom and if you want to be the bigger person, that's also the right way. But I feel like neither of them are wrong and neither of them make you an asshole I really do feel like throwing six years away.
Speaker 2:In my opinion, it's throwing it away um without trying couples counseling or something, because it's just like. You're like leave the kids alone. You're upset because your husband didn't back you up. Is this repeated behavior? Does he always not back you up?
Speaker 1:that was my other thought too because like there's a obviously a bigger issue and like I feel like you're checked out already if you're just like divorce yeah, yeah, that was the other thing that I was gonna say too, because, like, if this is the one time it's happened you know what I mean like it's, or is it like exactly what you said? Is it they're doing the same thing? This is like repetitive, because I'm seeing as well, you didn't have to cancel the trip. Well, like, was she paying for the entire trip? Was it a 50 50 thing? Like you know what I mean? That's the other thing that I have questions on. Let's play the update, okay, fine, I was gonna say what gives her the right to be the one to cancel the trip?
Speaker 2:basically, you go hello, I've been getting a lot of messages asking for an update. I'm now in a place to be able to give an update. You can look at my previous post for what it's about. So this was six months ago and the other one was 191 days, which is six months. Okay, so it wasn't that much of a difference. Yeah, oh, this was like, really like, I think think right after it, because I could have just waited till the next sentence I went back to the house two days ago and my husband had a long talk about what happened and how I didn't. Oh wait, I went back to the house two days ago and my husband and I had a long talk about what happened and how I didn't feel protected by him and how he knew how disrespectful they were being, but didn't stop anything. He said that he still loved his ex and that's why pretty much yeah?
Speaker 1:shut the front door. Oh my god, I did not see that coming.
Speaker 2:He didn't want anything to do with her. No, he didn't want. He didn't want to do anything for her to leave them again, which, oh god, sorry. I'm so sorry about this. I'm leaving you on a cliff.
Speaker 1:It's okay, I'm still in shock.
Speaker 2:He didn't want to do anything for her, to leave them again them as in him and the twins. But that didn't change how he felt about me. I did not feel comfortable with that. I told him that I've been there, not her, and how could he still love her? And it was very emotional and there was crying and yelling. I made the decision to move along with the divorce. I spoke with the twins and they cried and said it's their fault and to forgive them and their dad did, and to forgive them and their dad and not leave. I told them that as much as I love them, staying with their dad and in this home was not an option. But I would still love to have a relationship with them if they want. But I am still very much hurt by what happened and would still appreciate a little bit more time for myself. I let them know that their actions have consequences and they can't treat people the way they did. I did move out and was staying in a unit in one of my rental properties.
Speaker 2:Exciting news I bought my first house. It was a fairly quick process. Bought my first house. It was a fairly quick process. I'm excited for what's next. I bought the first house, I bought my first host ever and next month I am taking a break from work for a few weeks or the whole month, maybe two or three, and doing some exploring of the world and healing and finding myself. I lost myself in the twins and my husband and didn't really focus on what I wanted and what made me happy. So I bought tickets again for Disney World. I have also made plans to go to Thailand next month and from there I have no clue.
Speaker 2:She's doing like the eat, pray, love thing. I'm doing some spontaneous trips. I have always wanted to see the seven wonders of the world. Anyway, I'm really happy to be getting this break. I told the kids I would love to have them over for dinner when I get settled in my new place. I do feel bad about canceling their trip to Disney, so I'm thinking about funding a trip for them to go this summer for their 17th birthday, just not with me. I'm excited to be traveling alone and I need the mental break. That is all, really.
Speaker 2:There is an edit. I read the comments about not funding a birthday party trip for them because it's not my responsibility. This is a mom or step parent responsibility and you know all of you are right, so I will not be funding that trip. It's still hard for me to not. It's still hard for me to not be or jump into that role and I have to get out of that. Ultimately, they did not respect me as their mom, so I will not be doing that and focusing on myself and my trips. It was just a thought and nothing was set in stone and I'm glad I didn't. Thank you for everyone who is still here giving me the advice and kind words. Once they earn my trust back, I will have no problem funding it.
Speaker 2:Info there seems to be some confusion. I talked to them three days ago. I did not buy a house three days ago. I have property with units, duplexes, that I rent out to people and I was staying on one side. I bought a house for me to live in. I have everything I need sorted out to where I can buy this house now and with the divorce, it's not an issue. You can close on a house in less than 30 to 45 days if you pay in cash. People are so focused on my financial situation. I'm not rich by any sense, but I do good for myself and I deserve it because I worked hard for it after I came from nothing. I'm not abandoning them again. The twins have said that they will try to earn my trust back and if giving me space is what can start that healing process, they will do it. I'm inviting them over for dinner next month and we'll see how things go um a couple things.
Speaker 1:I do find it funny that she's like I'm not loaded, but I own all of these properties.
Speaker 2:Yeah I know right like I'm just like hoping she lives somewhere in the states where it's like middle of nowhere.
Speaker 1:Fifty thousand dollars for a house yeah, but either way, this isn't about the financial status, like spent. Honestly, if you've got the money, like, spend it however you want it, like it, and it sounds like she's spending it in a fantastic way, like I love it. Um, yeah, yeah, she's spending it in a fantastic way. I don't know if this is just the pessimistic side of me, but I don't think the relationship is going to maintain with the kids because, like I don't know, when you're 16, 17, like you don't have that kind of priority in your head most of the time to keep in contact with your friends that are adults you know what I mean whether they're family or like family friends. You just life's too busy, you're working, you're she's holding a grudge towards kids.
Speaker 2:Like I, I get their teenagers and stuff and like I've never been a parent, I just don't see myself holding a grudge to kids that don't know any better. I guess they do know better, but they were like she knew they were being manipulated and their mom came back Like I feel like in that situation it's almost like they're not 16 anymore, they're 8 again.
Speaker 1:Seeing their mom, oh yeah.
Speaker 2:For sure. Almost like they're not 16 anymore, they're eight again seeing their mom. Oh yeah, for sure. It's a very complicated situation, this story, but I think her and her husband not being together is the best thing especially once he said oh my god, like what. I did not see that fucking how can you love someone that abandoned you and your children and?
Speaker 1:then call the person that you took it out on immediately and it's all like. I'm sorry to come back like fuck him oh my god, an awful person yeah, so that was that story yeah, sorry, that was like before this recording.
Speaker 2:In case there's a lot of breaks or maybe I won't even edit it out because I'm pretty tired. Um, I told lisa I was gonna get through this with no edits needed and I'm like I told Lisa I was going to get through this with no edits needed and I'm like not capable of reading a story.
Speaker 1:I think it still sounded well.
Speaker 2:Yeah, okay. So this one kind of has to do with, like our thing. Okay, I'm just going to read the title to you. Okay, oh God, am I the asshole?
Speaker 1:because I ate more than my share of a six foot party sub last night. Like did they?
Speaker 2:pull out the ruler.
Speaker 1:Well, oh shit, I swear to god. I was gonna say if a ruler's fucking pulled out, okay, let's hear.
Speaker 2:And this does. The other one didn't have a Does. Subway still do like the big. Did they say six feet? This wasn't Subway, but yeah, six feet, Holy shit yeah.
Speaker 1:Remember when Subway did do the big like six percent. I don't remember them doing it that big.
Speaker 2:I just remember being able to get party platters.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I guess they advertised it as that way and it probably wasn't actually that big of a sub. But like they did, I do remember at the subway that we used to go to all the time when we were kids, they did have a big, long sub that was like hanging above. I don't know.
Speaker 2:Anyways, you know what's so funny is that I used to get the cold cut trio like when I was younger because also classic uh, and then I don't like it anymore. I really like, don't like the taste of it, but a cold cut, sitting on one of those party platters that maybe has already been chilling out for a little bit.
Speaker 1:I love it yeah, I could know 20 of them, like those little tiny ones if I've been like heavy, heavy drinking, like if I'm about to go to bed and I'm just you like, not, it's like before the spins 20 of them like those little tiny ones. If I've been like heavy, heavy drinking, like if I'm about to go to bed and I'm just you like, it's like before the spins, but like you're like two shots of tequila away from hitting the spins. You know what I mean. I'm sure a lot of people know what I'm talking about. That is prime time for a cold cut combo with mustard.
Speaker 2:I mean like me, and you might be very different here.
Speaker 1:Have you.
Speaker 2:I mean like me and you might be very different here. Have you ever woken up with a subway?
Speaker 1:in bed with you. Thank god I didn't choke. Oh my god, I love that. That's my favorite thing. Yeah, okay, so let's get in the story. Oh, real quick. Before you do that, we're getting a jersey, mikes jersey mikes.
Speaker 2:Why do I know that?
Speaker 1:that's like the big subway or not subway big sub shop in the states.
Speaker 2:I feel like I haven't had it. Oh, I had that other one had it.
Speaker 1:But like every time I see somebody like going on, like keto and whatnot, they talk about the Jersey Mike sub bowls yeah, I want to try that.
Speaker 2:Okay, when are you guys getting it? When I'm there, I think it's next month.
Speaker 1:Oh damn it.
Speaker 2:I don't know if it'll be here when you're here, okay, um there's another sub place called John something, john, I don't know, but I had it when I was down in california the people in the states are screaming at us, right now they are. We have subway, mr sub, and firehouse maybe it's paul's, I don't know.
Speaker 2:It's a name, uh, but johnny's, johnny b, I don't know. I'm gonna stop now. I'm thinking of the also the bar in victoria called big bad john's, and then that keeps coming in my head and I'm like that's not what I'm talking about, it's okay so the one thing that I was sorry, the one thing I was gonna say oh, it opens at the end of november, november 27th.
Speaker 1:The one thing I was going to say about the jersey mics though their medium sub is a foot long jesus yeah, their large is apparently like 20 inches or something like that I'm trying to see if it will come up.
Speaker 2:It's like I wonder if it was a jersey that I went to and that's the j I'm thinking of. Whatever, it doesn't matter. We went there like after we went to Universal Studios. Oh my god, an In-N-Out burgers.
Speaker 1:I can't wait to bring.
Speaker 2:Rams down to California, like I just really want him to. Yeah, they have good stuff.
Speaker 1:I'm just looking to see what it says. Oh no, I have to go to the one in Kitchener to look at that. Whatever I'm done.
Speaker 2:Anyway, let's go. Let's start with the story.
Speaker 1:Yeah, what was it again Something, oh yeah, eating too much of the sub. Yeah, okay, good.
Speaker 2:What I thought would be a total non-issue has ballooned into a huge problem, and I'm up at 7.m dealing with it. I figured, while I wait for a text, I could post here to see what I did, if what I did was really that bad.
Speaker 1:I'm sorry. I'm like oh, I'm up so early, at 7.05 in the morning, I forget. Not everybody is a sociopath like me who's up at 3 in the morning, I know.
Speaker 2:I hate it when people do this. So just a warning for negative self-talk I am a big fat ass, there's no way around it. I love to eat, which probably borders on addiction. But I figure, since I'm only hurting myself, it's probably better to just live my life. I have some great friends, although there is no doubt I am the harmless, funny token fat guy of the otherwise pretty good looking group. I guess that sets the stage enough.
Speaker 2:Last night my friend hosted UFC and I was invited. He got a six foot party sub. I also brought homemade wings that are sort of my specialty. Well, of course, people flocked to the food and I had basically one serving of the sandwich, but people devoured my rings, rings, wings and I didn't get to have a single one, which it's totally fine. That's why I brought them. But maybe an hour later I was starving.
Speaker 2:I kept eyeing the sandwich and I'd say there was about three feet of it left. I waited for an hour, then another half an hour and no one had touched it. But they were still munching on chips, pretzels and whatnot. So I was like screw it. I took about half of what was left and ate it. Then the last half sat there for another 10 to 15 minutes and no one said anything. So I ate the rest.
Speaker 2:Well, to be sure, as I was swallowing the last bite, the host's girlfriend asked where the sandwich was. Like, I was the guilty party. Pretty much everyone pointed at me. I guess they noticed me eating the sandwich. Everyone pointed at me. I guess they noticed me eating the sandwich. She was furious and said that I was an incredible pig and that I had been super selfish to eat three feet of sandwich. I felt so bad.
Speaker 2:I tried to explain to her that I really did wait over an hour and thought people had lost interest. I also tried to explain how everyone had ate my wings and she said something along the lines of of you brought them to share, alan. If someone had eaten over half of it by themselves, that's not fucking sharing, is it? I offered to order a pizza or even go and get subways, and she said that it was a pathetic offer because the party sub had been from a local shop owned by her friends. I said I was sorry, but the night was so tense from then on out.
Speaker 2:I woke up this morning to several texts from my twin sisters, the host's girlfriend's best friends, saying that I had to get my shit under control and that everyone is really mad at me and that I embarrassed myself. Last night I tried to explain to them what my mindset had been and they haven't responded. Was I the asshole for eating that much of the sandwich last night? Edit, I guess I've been banned from responding, but my inbox says oh sorry, it's about the thing. What's the thing? Wait, no, no, no, it's about why you can't respond to all the comments that are coming in.
Speaker 1:Oh, okay, I'm popular.
Speaker 2:There's another platform, but no Edit. No, no, no, like it. It's about like why you can't respond to all the comments that are, but no edit. To answer what seems to be the most common misconception this wasn't a subway party sub, so definitely not four times the size of a regular sub. This is a local place, so it's about 1.5 times the width of a regular sub and it's a ton of food. Don't get me wrong, but I can down five subway footlongs in an afternoon easily. This is probably about equivalent to that, not 12 like some people are saying.
Speaker 1:That's the end I feel like, uh, man, I don't know, I don't know what to say here. You don't want to say he's the asshole because, like, I've been in that position of I want to eat the rest of the food that's there, but I know I'm in a setting where I shouldn't eat all the food that's there and some, actually, you know what story time I have actually done that. And this was when I was. How old was I when this happened? I would have been I don't know the age, but I would have been in seventh grade and we ordered a pizza.
Speaker 1:It was me, my best friend, and the guy she was dating at the time and you know dating of whatever dating is in seventh grade. And, um, we were like, let's order a pizza. And it's like, yeah sure, we'll order a pizza. And we just got a medium pizza and she had one slice, and he had one slice and I ate the rest of the pizza. And it was like in my head it was like I knew I shouldn't have eaten all that pizza. You know what I mean. Like it's like I don't need all that, but it was there, there were no adults, there was nobody to stop me, so I'm just gonna finish eating it and like they didn't. I never really got made like, looking back on it, I don't think they really made fun of me for it. You could tell her boyfriend was like know he could, he could see that I was doing it but like never said anything about it. You know what I mean, yeah, but so I've been in.
Speaker 1:That was also a long time ago, but there have been situations since then. But I think that was because, like the one of the biggest turning points in my life, of when my binging really started, and I think that's why that's something that I remember. I remember so clearly. But there's been other moments of that happening through my life and I usually just eat it.
Speaker 1:You know what I mean, because in my head it's like it's food and you know everybody else around you isn't going to eat as much as everybody else, or I'm going to eat more than everybody else, because that's just how it is and most people kind of know that and, yeah, I think so you don't want to. In my perspective, I don't want to say you were the asshole because, like I've been there and I get that, but at the same time it's like it was a party of how many people? And you say it's supposed to be a six foot sub and there was three feet, so that was like half the sub for a party of that many people. You know what I mean? Yeah like.
Speaker 2:I don't know where it happened in my family, but I know that something happened for me to feel embarrassed, because that embarrassment doesn't come from nowhere yeah or maybe it was my mom saying stuff before a party, I don't know, but I just remember always looking at food and just being like I can't eat too much, you know, like you have to monitor what you're eating, and then like I'd go back and I would always be the person going back once everyone's like ran through it and then trying to get like anything good afterwards because I was still hungry. But honestly, the way that I always that I don't have that scenario is that I eat before or if I know I'm not going to be there for very long, I hit a drive-thru after. It literally is yeah, it has to be before, after I'm going to eat more food and I can stuff myself there and I will still want to eat more food.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's a myself there and I will still want to eat more food. Yeah, that's a good point too. There there are the other options you could have left.
Speaker 2:You could have, like you know what I mean. I would have just been like hey, I you know what, If people know that you like to eat, like just order a pizza.
Speaker 1:If you're around people that you feel comfortable with, just be like you know what I'm like actually really hungry and I just think that I yeah, but if they're, if they're not real friends, you know what I mean. If these are friends that you hang out like, he's gonna be like yo.
Speaker 2:I would never do it. I'm making a suggestion.
Speaker 1:I would never do that, so he'd be like I'm gonna order a pizza. And if they're not real friends? And that same girl could have been like because, especially when she waited to ask, she could have easily turned around and been like well, there's a whole sub over there. Like what do you mean? You want to order a pizza? Like the sub came from my friend. Like how, like what's wrong with the stuff? Like you know what I mean. Like she kind of comes off as that type of person where it doesn't matter.
Speaker 1:Yeah, honestly, I think that was a really bad opinion in my myself.
Speaker 2:Uh, here's some of the comments, though.
Speaker 2:Um, I think it's important to recognize that you have a very different relationship with food than other people do. It seems that when you go to a party, you are focused on the food that is available and how much of it you will be able to eat. I get that, that's me, yeah, I get it Whereas other people at the party are focused on socializing or watch the fight. In this case, you are timing how long it's been since anyone has touched the food you want, but people with a healthy relationship with food know in the back of their mind they can go back for more. So there's no rush, no need to grab it before it's gone. And those two very different outlooks cause situations like this. You see as it being fair because you waited for what you perceive as an ample amount of time, while others see you as yeah, I buy food, that's my sometimes food. I have to consume it all then, because there is no well, it's always in the cupboard. No, it can't be in there like I need it now right it's just it's.
Speaker 2:It was really interesting reading that comment, like because I'm like wait, other people aren't focused on what this food is gonna be at the party.
Speaker 1:Yeah like. Well, think about when we you were here last time and cory came over and he's like I brought beef. We ate all those brie bites in like one sitting.
Speaker 2:Yeah like it was, and I actually couldn't. Cory put one of the plates over by me because I was at the dining room table and you guys were over at the couches and I'm like, oh, I don't need all this. But but in my head I was like, fuck, yeah, I was so happy, but then also I wasn't focused on, I think, you guys were playing on the Switch. I wasn't focused on anything you guys were doing. I wasn't focused on the conversation that was happening, because I was just like you can't eat all these. Okay, you can have another one now. Okay, five minutes have passed. How many more on the plate? Does it look like you've eaten half of it? Like I couldn't stop focusing on the food because I was just like I wanted to devour the end. I wanted to. He has to make me my whole back, my one whole batch, just for me I'll pay for it.
Speaker 2:I'll pay for it I don't care, I'll tip him too.
Speaker 1:They're so good.
Speaker 2:They're so freaking good actually it came up in my memories when I made the brie bites but added the turkey and the stuffing and stuff and I was like I could really go for that right now but that's like.
Speaker 1:It's like the exact same thing with the pizza. For me, you know, like that's the whole reason I quit eating pizza, because it absorbed me that times infinity, like that was the one food that I had zero control over.
Speaker 2:So other comments get a bit more judgy and obviously he was voted the asshole in this. You're the asshole. The blatant lack of regard to seeing how eating four feet of sandwich out of six feet is acceptable because it hadn't been touched for an hour is ridiculous. This is a serious problem. You need to get some help ASAP. You are capable of eating five feet of sandwich. I'm five foot three. You eat a human length of a sandwich.
Speaker 1:That's a crazy perspective.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I never even thought of that until I understand that these are your decisions, but maybe you should have ordered the pizza for yourself or extra subs for yourself. They didn't buy six feet of sandwich to accommodate your gluttony. I hate it when people write it so like harsh, but I get it.
Speaker 2:Um, there was another one. Okay, You're the asshole. You sound like a good dude, just one who had a bad night. Etiquette would always dictate that a party slash buffet situation there should always be at least one portion of food left. One the signals to the host that they had enough food. Two leaves possibility of someone showing up late being able to help themselves.
Speaker 2:Exceptions One it's your close, close personal family slash friends and it's a regular dinner and you all know you like to eat like assholes, and it's every person for themselves. Two it's a party situation with pizza. Everyone is focused on food. Hey, it's the last slice. Anyone else want some? Should I order some more? Or is it a party situation with dip and something? Hey, finishing off the dip, guys, Last call. I know you made a last call but, as others pointed out, timing matters.
Speaker 2:I have weird food issues too. I usually set out a game plan for myself once I get to a party. Also, not going to lie, I spend a fair amount of time before a party trying to figure out the food situation and deciding if I need to eat beforehand and, to be honest, I also always have a post-party food plan as well. I love this woman or person oh, it's a woman. Because I was like why did I think they were a woman? Their lady is in their name. If it were me, I'd try to apologize by sending another sub to their house for lunch Not a six foot, but big enough to make them laugh. Best of luck, bro, and then that's it. Some people did get real nasty in the comments.
Speaker 1:I believe it.
Speaker 2:We don't have to go down those. No, and then someone did point out I didn't screenshot that one, but they were like they quoted it as that part when he said I'm only hurting myself, so it's probably better just to live my life. It's like, dude, like you're saying it, you're hurting yourself, like, stop it. And it's so much easier said than done. But it's like if you're getting to this point where it's disrupting the lives around you, like you, you need to take that look in yourself. You know, like, for example, the, the, what I'm not talking about and the things that affect me. I've really noticed I have affected people around me and unfortunately, I've gone down the rabbit hole of realizing that it's affected people my entire life and I didn't even notice it. But whatever, let's not talk about that.
Speaker 2:So it's just like once you're recognizing it yeah, and people are getting, people are talking to you about it. It's kind of your moment to like step back and go like maybe I, maybe I need to talk to someone about this and see if there's a deeper issue. But people just are so easily to dismiss mental health. I'm a glowing example. I have dismissed issues I've known were issues for a while. It just happens, you know, binge eating. I was told I had binge eating by a doctor, didn't get a proper diagnosis, didn't really get any help, like proper help. I thought I could do it on my own, fix issues and you can't. Yeah Well, maybe some people can, but honestly, it's just best to have someone hold your hand in a way yeah, that was really heavy, those were two really heavy. Am I the assholes?
Speaker 1:they were good though yeah, those were deep, I like those, that's six foot one.
Speaker 2:Though when I was reading I was like, no way like, and I knew it. I knew it by reading it and I'm like I would do the same thing. No one's eating it, yet no one's touched it. I would be focused on that sub all night yeah, oh yeah, 100%, totally agree.
Speaker 1:Like people really don't understand because I'm sure this is some of the nasty comments and even the girl that was talking about it like people really don't understand that food can be so addictive for people, and I hate when people say like, oh, there's no additives or addictiveness in food, so like it's impossible for food to be addictive. You need food to survive. It's like, yeah, you need food to fuel your body, but corporations literally have made it there. They've hired people for their job to make it so that you keep coming back and eating this food and you don't make these other choices, and it's just.
Speaker 2:Do you know what doesn't make any fucking sense, though. When you were just saying that, the one thing that came into my head was MSG.
Speaker 2:Now the fear behind MSG. I'm just going to straight up say it to everyone out there. It's embedded in racism. But People used to be against MSG Because it was an addictive thing, thing like it's making you addicted to it. And so everyone out there thought, oh, they're putting addictive things into food. But then when someone's telling them that they're addicted to food, it's not real because it has. It has to be a chemical thing, it has to be salt or it has to be whatever. Like are you kidding me right now? Like it.
Speaker 1:Just I hate when people say it has to be a chemical thing, because it's like people are addicted to porn, people are addicted to gambling like there's nothing in that. It's the release of dopamine that people get addicted to. And it's the same reaction for food people think that food isn't addiction. It isn't an addiction because it's something you're consuming, so people automatically assume oh no, it can't be an addiction and it's like well, I eat food, so why am I not addicted to it?
Speaker 2:and it's like because it's you.
Speaker 2:Don't look at food that way yeah, I can go play slots and then it'll be fine, but the person beside me who has a gambling addiction cannot go play slots and be fine yeah, it's amazing that people just really whatever, like I guess, believe whatever the hell you want, but don't deny people their truth yeah, yeah cool anyways, this is fun yeah, um and uh, we're not gonna have a fat girl therapy right now. We might record next weekend, but uh, lisa and I are getting together the following week and in actual person, yay, uh, so hopefully we might even do some live stuff on tiktok maybe depending it's we.
Speaker 2:We always try and plan things and then nothing really goes to plan. So, um, we might, we might not, who cares?
Speaker 1:if you miss you, if we see you in the old episodes.
Speaker 2:I'm sorry this comes off really sassy.
Speaker 1:We're really, we'll be our sassy people, but we're not trying to be sassy, we're just there's. So chris has got a lot going on, I've got a lot going on and, um, I feel like we're here everyone always hears, and you know, I guess if this was our job, we said that too, it'd be different.
Speaker 1:Um yeah, there's just a lot at the same time, I'm also like I share the amount that I can share. You know what I mean. I'm a pretty open book for the most part on here and on my TikTok and Instagram and all that stuff. Yes, I'm on all three. If you're not following me on Instagram, follow me on Instagram. But the point is like I share my niche, I share my thoughts in that niche, I share some family stuff, but there is a lot behind the scenes that Chris knows about that, like I, I really don't talk about because, um, it's just that's my own thing and it's not stuff that I want to be open about. Um, it's just that's my own thing and it's not stuff that I want to be open about. So, yeah, which I don't think anybody pries really like who listens? It's not like, oh my god, you guys are gone all the time, like why don't you just tell us what's going on?
Speaker 2:because it's I think it's also that, like you know, you guys more than me right now because it's like, uh, someone that's removed enough. It's like Lisa and I are sitting here talking about all this stuff and yet yesterday we're telling each other about someone that's died in our lives. You know, like each of us have experienced that and it's just like you know. But the the world keeps spinning, but it's like that's a perfect example of things that are going on behind the scenes, that it's just like it's taking, uh, a distraction away, like for for on Lisa's part I would say more, because mine is a bit more distant, removed, but like it's still, like you know, shocking, and then you want to be there for people and then it's just like you know, so time just kind of there's not enough time in a day for everything, there's not enough time in life yeah
Speaker 1:yeah, there's really not well, this just got heavy again um. Should we do a listen, bitch? I know it's not an actual thing, but I feel like it should be a thing today.
Speaker 1:I think we had a lot of whatever this was this week. Yeah, you know what's sad. The two um massage chairs like the high quality, really good massage chairs at the gym have broke, so mom and I have been using the other ones that aren't the really nice ones this last week, and that's what's sad. That's also not the most, that's not the drastic thing in my life right now. I'm sure people think about that, but it was something that made me sad.
Speaker 2:Also I don't know if I actually oh, I've only posted on Instagram. I did like a lot of home decor and stuff in my house and it's all I look at when I'm sitting on my computer now and I just get so happy and cozy. Last night we were watching stupid scary movies and I laughed so hard on your Instagram story.
Speaker 1:When you're like what could go wrong. And then the next panel, it's like I'm not sleeping tonight, annabelle people have watched that a long time ago.
Speaker 2:I never watched annabelle because I can't handle please don't make fun of me out there because I get it enough for my brother and people but like I'm afraid of ghost children specifically. And thank you.
Speaker 1:Thank you for no, I can't do the ghost, ghosts and like supernatural shit.
Speaker 2:Movies I can't do, yeah, but it's like even if it's an adult it's different like, but it's children, it's creepy, it's worse, it's, and you do those dolls from the early, like 2000s and the 90s, where they were like the, they're like this, and there was no, they didn't have faces.
Speaker 1:Yeah, what I'm talking about, yeah, yeah, sorry, continue your story. I'm just I know how you feel dolls.
Speaker 2:I used to have so many because my grandma would give me like I'd have a little pram like literally making you set up to being a mom. By the way, like it was a proper carriage with like and I had multiple.
Speaker 2:Um, those dolls ended up in the bottom of my closet with stuff absolutely, and my mom used to bring me these really nice porcelain dolls home from the uk and very nice, um, but no, they would just stare at me all night and I like eventually couldn't sleep anymore. But yeah, ghost children, uh, it that. Okay, I'm gonna do it without freaking myself out, but I've literally scared myself, but it's the yeah, la, la, la, no, f off, right, I got the chills.
Speaker 1:No, no, okay, there's also. I can't even remember which Christmas song it is, but there's that one Christmas song where, like, all the kids start singing with them and I skip that song every year because it's just Is it, war Is Over? Yes, yeah, it is, you're right. As soon as you said it, it was like, and like I always skip that song because I'm just like I do not need the kids singing.
Speaker 2:That's one of my favorite songs.
Speaker 1:Chris, my biggest fear is the fact that I'm going to have to go to my child's fucking Christmas concert. I'm going to have to listen to all of these children singing all the fucking time and I don't want to Because it's not just her class. I'm going to have to listen to.
Speaker 2:It's going to be all of the class.
Speaker 1:They'll have to come at Christmas time, so you can endure this with me, because I don't, so I get it. Anyways, here's my, here's our affirmation. Stay away from little children I close the door on the trick-or-treaters.
Speaker 2:Okay, listen, bitch, blurt out your ideas or hold on to them and see what doesn't happen okay, I blurt out my ideas to lisa all the time and she's like though that exists, that's true.
Speaker 1:I only do that on the ones that do exist, though.
Speaker 2:I should have had all my ideas in the 90s.
Speaker 1:If it's a good idea, I'm like yo, chris, yes, I love that, like I hype it up when she gives me an idea. But then there's other times where she's like, guys, what if we did this? And I'm like that's the thing that, guys, what if we did this? And I'm like that's the thing, that's this. And she'll be like no, no, it'll do this. I'm like, yes, that is what that I want to be my own boss shark tank also just a random shout out.
Speaker 2:Don't know if he still listens to this podcast. Probably not, but oh my god, those of you that remember ken oh yes, killing it, berry bowl killing it berry bowls.
Speaker 2:If you have not seen him in a while, he's under bite-sized. I think he used to be keto ken, now he's bite-sized, which is the name of his company, and he made berry bowls. Actually, they're not called berry bowls anymore. They're called that, but they don't say it on the bowl because they can just be used for people that have smaller appetites, because people were like right hey, like when he was coming with the prototypes prototypes they were like I don't really want it labeled on there that I've had surgery.
Speaker 2:And he was like, oh my god, so he just made a symbol instead. And freaking so smart.
Speaker 1:And he had that cookbook too, like and I think he had like a package deal too right where it's like you get the all of it together, the cutlery the thing yeah the cutlery, the berry bowl and the and the cookbook yeah, I love it, and he's just like.
Speaker 2:I'm watching his insta stories of just have you seen them? Like loading the boxes downstairs and like, wow, for one you're getting a massive workout like jesus anyway, shout out to ken, go check him out. He's doing awesome yeah, okay.
Speaker 1:Well, that's the whole show. That is thanks for listening. We'll see you, uh, next time whenever that is, it can't be next year we have to do yeah, we gotta at least do a christmas episode, our things what's? That's fucking insane that we're saying right now that we at least have to do a christmas episode because this was the last sunday of october, which means the next time we record is november.
Speaker 2:That's right, bitch, I know that means halloween's in four days.
Speaker 1:Okay, I gotta go okay, bye, bye yay.