The Weighting Room Podcast
The Weighting Room Podcast
My Big Fat Mouth: The Shoe War and Food Narrators
Ever found yourself deep in a Reddit rabbit hole, judging strangers' moral dilemmas from behind your screen? You're not alone.
This episode takes you on a journey through some of Reddit's most thought-provoking "Am I the Asshole" stories, where we dissect social boundaries, personal quirks, and the grey areas of human interaction. From a heated confrontation over a medical condition versus a no-shoes household policy to the unexpected drama of allowing dogs but not children at a wedding, these stories reveal how everyday decisions can spiral into complex moral quandaries.
We dive into a particularly hilarious case of a coworker who narrates their lunch like a cooking show host ("You're just a sad sandwich. Don't worry, I'm gonna eat you anyway"), examining when quirky becomes uncomfortable and when it's appropriate to speak up about unusual behavior in shared spaces.
Throughout our discussion, we share personal insights about how our own experiences shape our judgments - including a tangential but passionate debate about the proper Star Wars viewing order and reflections on childhood experiences that influence our adult perspectives on social norms.
What makes these discussions so compelling isn't just the drama of each situation, but how they challenge us to examine our own boundaries and values. After all, in most interpersonal conflicts, there are rarely perfect heroes or villains - just people navigating social waters with different priorities, limitations, and communication styles.
Ready to judge along with us? Listen now, and let us know: who do you think is the real asshole in these scenarios?
Do you have a story you would like to share? Send it to us at theweightingroompc@gmail.com
Disclaimer: We are not Medical professionals and all views and opinions are our own.
hi, lisa, hi, chris, I like I haven't even moved since the last one guess what today is uh, is it still 12 fridays away from halloween?
Speaker 2:it's, am I the asshole day, oh that day, yes, I'm always keeping you on your toes uh. So I did find a couple uh stories, but I went through the am I the devil um subreddit.
Speaker 1:So it's actually they're assholes well they know they're assholes, but they want to know like on a scale of one to ten.
Speaker 2:It's not even them what it is is actually other people that have reposted their stories under this. To be like this person is the devil oh god, yeah, okay uh, so it's not necessarily that they're rated an asshole.
Speaker 2:The person thinks that they're the devil. But yeah, uh, I will start with. Some of them aren't even like that bad. I was trying to keep it light-hearted, like there were some that I'm like. We're not talking about any of these topics on our podcast, but if you want to like, go read them. If you have a strong stomach, go on. Okay. So the first one is am I the asshole for refusing to take my shoes off in my friend's house, causing his wife to cancel the dnd session for everyone? Oh, have you ever played dnd?
Speaker 2:yeah you have no, but I've seen them and I love people's setups. I think that's the coolest thing.
Speaker 1:I wish I knew how to play I really struggled with it when I was trying to play because I can't picture things. So the same thing with the reading and whatnot, so like it's like a boardless game, so that would be so hard, right. So people are saying, like this is happening and we're fighting this in this action. I'm like I don't know what's happening, like so I couldn't get into it. But now there are people who have really big setups and like they do. So I feel like I could get into that type of stuff now because I play um gloomhaven, uh, which is like a different universe but kind of same dungeon crawler idea, um, but it is a board and a person and cards and it's more visual and I love it. But I really struggle with dnd because I can't picture what's happening talking about, like different universes and stuff.
Speaker 2:Rams and I are getting into watching all of the star wars in timeline, timeline order, in release order or whatever no in timeline no, no, no, hold on wait in timeline yeah timeline not release one, two, three or one, one, two three, four, five, six, but not just the movies. We're watching the series that it came out in between, because on disney they do that now. So we just finished watching. Oh crud, I forget what it's called rams but you've seen them before.
Speaker 1:Right, the movies.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, okay then, yeah, that's fine I saw one in the theater when it came out. It was like my birthday present and I brought my friends Rams.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm here, if you've seen them before 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, totally fine If you've never seen them before 4, 5, 6, 1, 2, 3.
Speaker 2:I will die on that hill, but honestly, it was really hard to sit through 1, 2, 3. I forgot how bad the acting was from everyone. Samuel jackson, I was like what is wrong with you? Like this is the worst acting job I have ever seen you do listen.
Speaker 1:I'm going to listen to your complaints right now, but I will not agree with them uh, everyone was so awful in it, but but number two fell asleep. We tried to fall asleep.
Speaker 2:I'm like I can't, I can't do this. So then what we did was I fast forwarded and I'm like, okay, that's happening. Yep, I remember, and then that's how we got through it. And then we started watching the third one and we got through that. Now we're having to watch gosh. You know what I want to pull it up on here. We're having to watch a whole series of something, oh and or. There's two seasons of it. There's like I don't even know 12 or 22 episodes per one. So we're watching all of them and then we'll watch episode four 12 and 22 are very different.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I know.
Speaker 2:We were watching. I have to like I can't even go into Disney on here because it's making me sign in and I don't know what my sign in is. But yeah, anyway, let's just get back to the story. Okay, what was?
Speaker 1:the title again.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, taking Off Shoes. Yeah, I 38 male. You'd think that this is a question from 18 year olds about this, to be quite honest, I'm not even surprised, honestly.
Speaker 2:Not talking about playing D&D, I'm just talking about like the whole thing that, like Jesus, this is so silly. I38 male was invited to a D&D session with four other people at my friend, alex's who's a 34 male house house. When I got there, his wife answered the door and immediately asked me to take my shoes off because they have a strict no shoes policy due to them having a crawling baby. I explained that I have a medical condition called epidermolytis. No, no, epidermolysis. I am so sorry I am butchering that epidermal.
Speaker 1:I'm so sorry I am butchering that I'm laughing because of how silent you were. I was like should I say something?
Speaker 2:I can't even guess what this would be Belosa Simplex EBS, which makes the skin on my feet extremely fragile. Even mild friction or pressure can cause painful blisters and tears. So I have to wear supportive shoes with cushioned orthopedic insoles at all times, even indoors. Walking barefoot or just in socks causes causes me so much pain and can lead to bleeding. She suggested I put grocery bags or socks over my shoe, but I told her that that's unsafe for walking and honestly just insulting. She said she can't compromise her baby's health for my comfort.
Speaker 2:When Alex came to the door he told me just deal with it for a couple hours or you're not welcome inside. I told him I wasn't going to risk injuring myself over a D&D session and if my shoes were that big of an issue I'd respectfully leave. As I walked back to the car I overheard his wife telling the other guests that were already there that the night was off because I made a huge scene at the door. Later I got a group text from Alex saying he was cancelling D&D night because it's not fair to expect everyone else to pretend nothing happened. Some mutual friends say I overreacted and could have just sucked it up, while others think Alex and his wife were ridiculous for ruining everyone else's plans just because I decided not to stay.
Speaker 1:So am I the answer? Yeah? Oh man, there's like. So I feel like there's something missing here. You know what I mean.
Speaker 2:There's a small edit that says I should add that I texted our sorry. There is an edit saying that I should add that I texted our group friend chat a few days ago about my concerns with the condition because we changed the location of the meetup to his house instead of mine. Alex reassured me that I shouldn't worry about it, so I didn't bring my indoor shoes right.
Speaker 1:I just feel like, was it a bigger blow up at the door than what they're playing it to be? For everybody to be like you did it? You know what I mean. Like for them, for they're saying that they're just like, it's fine, I'm just gonna leave, it's not a big deal. But I'm like I feel like other things might have been said. That isn't being said in here is kind of the vibe that I'm getting. For one and for two. First of all, is this an evening thing Because the parents could just, you know, mop afterwards or clean the floor afterwards if their baby is in bed. Do you know what I mean as a parent? And two, like honestly, I understand as a parent, I understand both sides. I do think that the parents could have cleaned it up afterwards because I'm assuming the baby's with someone if they're all playing dnd, like yeah, but you don't know what's on your shoes and what if there was carpet like vacuum?
Speaker 1:you can get everything up I get that, but at the same time I'm not gonna have somebody in pain and like oh for sure blisters and bleeding on my carpet because I don't want them to wear shoes. You know what I mean? I don't know. I think both of them, I think technically both of them are on the right. It's hard to say because I feel like there's a lot of missing information here.
Speaker 2:Well, just to let you know, because I think that you might not remember this one part, because a lot of people said this in the comment which I agreed with.
Speaker 1:What's the problem with putting grocery bags over your feet, over your shoes? So actually, when you said that, I did have the thought of if you know you have this condition and you are going to be in inside places, you should have shoe covers in your in with you at all times. In my opinion, if you don't have an indoor shoe scenario, you should be bringing shoe covers with you and for I get socks. It's unsafe and this is unsafe and blah blah blah. But, like if this is something that you are dealing with, you should be providing something to cover For sure.
Speaker 2:Yeah, people in the comments were saying like, if you have a condition that requires you to wear shoes and you need to bring your indoor shoes with you, just a cute pair of lightweight sneaks in your bag and you're set. This is what we did in elementary school. It's the only option in a rainy climate. That person's from Western Canada. I'm like. I'm like, yeah.
Speaker 1:I get it.
Speaker 2:You're 38 and it's never come up before that someone doesn't want you wearing your dirty outdoor shoes in their home. You wearing your dirty outdoor shoes in their home you're the asshole. At your age, you should know how to manage your medical condition while respecting others homes. Like yeah, you know it's. I think it was really rude of the person that has the house to be like just deal with it. Like the guy, like his guy friend being like just deal with it for a couple hours. It's like dude, no, he hasn't like a legitimate medical condition, but like other guys, still the asshole. Because it's like that's your medical condition and you shouldn't be relying on, like other people to know like exactly what's going to make you comfortable. Like you should just be extra prepared. That's that is my opinion. But I don't think like I don't know it is really hard, but seriously, putting garbage bags over your feet, people were saying like dude, maintenance workers do that all the time. Like there's nothing like that unsafe about it. Just be extra careful.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, I agree. I feel like if he blew up the way that I'm thinking he did, that he's not putting in there. He's the asshole. Yeah, because for them to say like, no, we don't want to play, we're canceling it, you had to have said something or done something more than what you're putting in the conversation yeah, I think that he got offended like.
Speaker 2:It does seem like that that he found it offensive to put bags over the issues, because someone even said are you serious? You couldn't put a bag over your dirty shoes. She offered you a perfectly fine compromise and you got offended. What did he say when she did that? I can't remember. Hold on, she just did um, oh yeah, walking um. Honestly, it's just insulting. So he how is that insulting?
Speaker 1:that's not insulting, no so the little tidbits like that makes me think he said something more than what he's playing into this post, which does make him the asshole, but I don't think he said it to us uh.
Speaker 2:So yeah, asshole is what they're quoted um. The next one is what you think they're. Do you think they're the asshole? Do you agree with them like?
Speaker 1:yeah, yeah, I think everybody was a bit of an asshole here, but I think everyone sucks. I think there's something that he didn't post that does make him the bigger asshole, to be honest uh.
Speaker 2:So this next one? Am I the asshole for confronting my sister over allowing dogs to her wedding and not my children? Be a little lighthearted, you know what I mean. Like what the hell? My, who is a 34 female, sister is 26 female got married a few weeks ago. Sister is 26 female, got married a few weeks ago. When she sent the invite she stated it was a child free wedding, which, well, it was disappointing for my two kids, who are 13 female and 11 male. It was understandable.
Speaker 2:We've had a few child free weddings in my family. It sucks, but there were always someone to babysit the kids. She gets along great with my kids. They love their aunt stacy. I really hope they use like fake names sometimes. It just feels like it's not fake. She even offers to take them places during the summer like museums and movies, without any prompts there. They were a little disappointed, my daughter especially, because she and my sister bonded in a big sister, little sister sort of way during the planning. She even helped pick out the centerpieces for the tables. So when I told the kids that they couldn't come, megan was quite upset and cried. That night I talked to her about how her aunt just wanted to ensure her guests were able to be themselves and if they did get a little too wild, they weren't doing it in front of children.
Speaker 2:Weddings can be a little wild and with Stacey's guest list being a much more younger crowd, that kind of was what happened. It was an outdoor wedding with a lot of space. I noticed a guest had a dog with her and I just assumed it was a medical alert dog. But then several other guests came with dogs and they were running around engaging with guests, barking loudly and well, doing what dogs do on grass. When we started dancing, the dogs were chasing each other through the dance floor and even caused a guest to trip and fall. They were okay. Oh, thank god, gas clutch my pearls. Um, I was upset, but again, it's my sister's wedding. Why were you upset? Were you the one that fell? I didn't say anything to her and, honestly, wasn't going to. That is until Stacey invited me and Megan to lunch to look at her pictures. Megan declined. She was still upset, but I went and we had a good lunch.
Speaker 1:Did it say how old Megan is? Sorry.
Speaker 2:Megan's 13 female 13.
Speaker 1:Okay, all right.
Speaker 2:She's 13 years younger than the aunt, if that mattered, just to let you know. When I saw the pictures, I noticed there were several photos of just the dogs. I asked stacy if she was going to post these on social media and she said yes, knowing megan would see them. I told her the truth behind megan not wanting to come to lunch. I told her about megan and how I'm trying to not say it in this way anymore because I want to take this seriously Okay, I told her. I told her about Megan oh my God, no, that was too loud and how she hurt her feelings and how she was insulted because her aunt picked dogs over her to go to the wedding. I told Stacy she needs to apologize to Megan if she ever wants to repair the relationship they once had.
Speaker 2:Stacey didn't say anything, left some money on the table and walked away. Our mom started to text me saying that I needed to apologize to Stacey for the way that I lashed out on her and that Megan is a kid and she'll get over this. But Stacey will now feel bad about her entire wedding. Stacy's maid of honor even texts me to say that if Stacy wanted a hundred dogs and no kids, it was her wedding and my kids shouldn't be upset over not going. Now I wonder if I should have kept my mouth shut and not ruined my sister's memory of her wedding by telling her that her niece now resents her for her choices. That's the end.
Speaker 1:Okay, well, first, the bride is not the asshole yeah, I don't think anybody's really an asshole in this situation.
Speaker 1:But like the way she's phrasing it of saying picking dogs over her, it's like, first of all, all the kids were not invited, not just you. Um, I was kind of like, oh 13, like I wouldn't. I wouldn't consider 13 as a kid. You know what I mean. But at the same time, if the vibe is, we're gonna get drunk and party and do some crazy shit and you don't want kids to be in that scenario, that makes sense. Dogs don't give a fuck. Yeah, like they're, they're gonna do whatever. You know what I mean. Kids are gonna learn what you're doing off of what you're doing. So and, yeah, the bride, totally in the right there. And the mom I feel the mom if, if the child is feeling that way, the mom represented it that way. You know what I mean. Like she came home from that wedding and was like, can you believe you weren't invited but there were dogs crapping all over the lawn, like the way she's writing her post, that's the idea that she put into her child's head. And now that's how her child is feeling.
Speaker 1:We could have said nothing about dogs at all. We could have said nothing about dogs at all. We could have just said oh yeah, I wish you were there, like you know what I mean, like that would have been fine, like we missed you. She could have had the child Megan, I think you said was her name Could have had a conversation with her aunt because, to your point, they're 13 years apart. She's 13. She's 26. She's 26 if they're as close as they said they were. She could have had a conversation, said I was really bummed that I wasn't able to be there and they could have done something with the two of them to fix it. You know what I mean. But I feel like the mom is the asshole here and threw some flame through some kindling on the fire here and made it into what it is. Yeah, like she put that idea in her head. I don't give a shit if dogs are at weddings and I don't really care if kids are at weddings either, but I wouldn't even compare the two.
Speaker 2:I wouldn't be like, oh, they didn't allow children, but they allowed dogs. I would.
Speaker 1:That wouldn't even come to my mind no, if anything, if you don't allow kids, I expect your dog to be your ring bearer or flower girl because, like you said, no kids, brandon and I did no kids at our wedding. I think that's smart.
Speaker 1:We did have two older kids, because the one was our flower girl and then the one was like friends with the flower girl so that she had somebody to hang out with. But they left early and we knew that they were going to be leaving early, so we didn't have an issue with them at the party. But, like once, it got later you did not want kids at our wedding, because our wedding was literally just a backyard get drunk party campsite, like you don't want kids around that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I see, that's, that's my whole childhood. Like I only know. Like it's crazy to think, like like to me, if someone were to be like, oh, we're having a party, kids are gonna be there, there is gonna be booze like I actually would not normally second guess that. Like I'd be like, okay, well, those are your kids, that's your choice. Like whatever, it's not like we're getting the kids drunk, we're not. Like you know what I mean. Like I in my head, those kids don't really know what's going on, they just know that we're getting goofy.
Speaker 2:But also I see it from a different side now because, like you listen to other people's stories and also like, hey, maybe what you did, what you went through, actually wasn't normal. Like it's just that I went through that, so I think it's normal. But when I've talked about the possibility of Rams and I getting married, I'm like no kids, like no kids. And I do believe that because I don't remember what social gathering I was at, but I did have drinks, and then a kid came up and talked to me and I just remember being like cool kid, like I don't want to be here now.
Speaker 2:Like and I just don't want this kid to know that I'm drinking and I'm normal. You know, it's like getting it felt the same way as getting caught drinking by your parents when you're a teenager. Like that's how I felt with a child and and it's not normal. Like, yeah, my first drink was at nine. Like that's not normal, but it was normal. Yeah, I get it. It's crazy. Yeah, I am. I think that this mom is the problem. I agree she's.
Speaker 1:Yeah but you know, because how did the kid if she hadn't posted them on social media? Yet? How did her kid know that there were dogs at the wedding? Yeah, how did her kid know that she picked a dog in quotations over her?
Speaker 2:well that, but that the kid doesn't know yet, because the mom was just saying are you going to post that to social media? Megan will see that yeah, but it's sorry.
Speaker 1:it sounded like afterwards she said that the reason she didn't come is she's upset because you picked dogs over her no, no, megan declined.
Speaker 2:She's still upset about not being invited yeah, and then later on and then she said when I saw the pictures, I noticed there were several pictures of just dogs while they were out at lunch. And I asked asia if she's going to post those photos on social media and she said yes, knowing megan would see them. I told her the truth behind megan not wanting to come to lunch, so she hadn't posted them to social media yet.
Speaker 1:Oh, okay, so she just told her how.
Speaker 2:She's just assuming how Megan's going to feel as well.
Speaker 1:Got it Okay, that makes sense, that makes sense, that makes sense yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I'm going to wrap it up. Mom's the asshole.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm going to wrap it up. Sorry final story, it's super short and like anyway, am I the asshole for telling my co-worker her quirky lunch habit is really distracting, I work probably I don't work in an office. I would probably find this really funny at my work, um I work in my work as you tell this story I work in an office with about 15 people.
Speaker 2:One of my co-workers has this habit of narrating everything she's eating out loud, not in a joking way. She'll literally say stuff like Mmm, spicy little pickle today. Okay, let's give this baby carrot a crunch, oh, my goodness. Or my personal favorite. What's that? You're just a sad sandwich. Don't worry, I'm gonna eat you anyway.
Speaker 1:Why are they doing this?
Speaker 2:Oh god, I can't keep talking. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1:Are they eating lunch by themselves or are they narrating to other people?
Speaker 2:I have narrating to their lunch. They're not narrating to anyone, so she said, okay, so it continues. I thought it was funny at first, but it happens every single day and it's getting kind of weird. She's not talking to anyone by, by the way, she just narrates it to herself like she's doing a voiceover for her own cooking show. Last week during lunch break I finally said this to her hey, no offense, but do you realize? You talk to your food out loud every day. She just laughed it off but seemed pretty embarrassed about it. Now she barely says anything at lunch and a few co-workers said that I killed the vibe and that she was just being quirky I feel kind of bad now, I don't mean to shame her, but I was honestly getting to.
Speaker 2:It was honestly getting distracting and hard to ignore. Am I the asshole for saying something? Oh my god. Someone in the comments wrote I've talked to my cheese sandwich before, but only once, and I blame the lsd I man, I I mean, I don't think you're an, it was.
Speaker 1:I think it was just kind of a conversation starter. I mean, she's been trying to start the conversation and wasn't going anywhere.
Speaker 2:Someone else wrote is this weird Sure, but I take this over Mary, who continually made noises while escalating volumes the entire time she was eating, every time she was eating. Or olaf these have to be fake names who snorted, sniffed, cleared his throat, hacked and coughed up phlegm. Did that thing where you, yeah, snort in a really hard to get the phlegm up, then spit it out in the break room the entire time he ate, regardless of how many people were there trying to eat. I would vomit on that man's food straight up like, because that would make me forget the original story.
Speaker 1:He's the asshole. Like out of everybody you've talked about so far, he is the asshole. Could you imagine all these people working in the same place at lunch? Oh?
Speaker 2:my god no oh my god.
Speaker 1:And you're like the only one in the lunchroom and you've got like all four of these scenarios happening and you're like I wouldn't eat in the lunchroom. I don't eat in lunchroom now as it is. I usually eat at my desk um, does she live alone?
Speaker 2:I feel like she lives alone. Uh, and then someone said I've lived alone for a decade.
Speaker 2:I may chat with my cats, but I've never tried to have a conversation with a pickle before spicy pickle and then people are in there being like this has ADHD energy and it's like, oh, stop that kind of stuff. Um, but you know what people in my life that were like saying they think I have ADHD are the reason why I went and got a psychological assessment and then found out are crazy, like have you seen the people that make fun of influencers where it's like, okay, make sure you nod while chewing, now put the hand over the mouth? It's, this one girl made a thing where she was texting her sister and she's like look what I'm having for lunch and her sister's no, you're doing it wrong. Nod your head while you're eating. And like she made her do that shit.
Speaker 2:The video kept going Funniest video I've seen in a while. And then there is that other influencer, the influencing influencers, where like he'll stitch a video and he's like, okay, guys, and it's just him sitting in a computer chair and he's like I'm so sick of these influencers, I have to send you one of his videos funniest guy I have seen. And he's just like he has had, I think, four cease and desists in a very small amount of time. It's very funny anyway man this was all for.
Speaker 2:Am I the devil slash the Asshole? I'm trying to keep it a little bit light.
Speaker 1:I like it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm so glad that we got to get these episodes out there, and I'm sure you're all so happy to hear our beautiful voices.
Speaker 1:Yes, if anybody's wondering, I'm still thinking about that chocolate bar from the last episode. I'm keeping Lisa on here until she's so tired she just passes out and forgets about it. I keep looking at the clock like it's been half an hour, like should I just go cave and have it, like should I just go to bed.
Speaker 2:I don't know it'll taste that much, that much better tomorrow I doubt it.
Speaker 1:I'm pretty sure it'll taste the exact same if I eat it. It is the same ingredients. It does not age like wine, it's a fucking chocolate, I feel like.
Speaker 2:We should like update this with like whether or not I ate it if you ate it or not.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna add a little clip in here now there's all this pressure that I really should not oh, do you want that, or do you just want? To eat it. I don't know, I have no idea. I feel like I have no idea. I don't know, I don't know. I'll text you we're gonna leave this episode here for right now yeah, I'll text you or send you a voice note so you can add it to next week's okay, guys, until next time bye yay.